Even if he does take you, he’ll lie to others and say that you are a colleague or something.
We see each other many hours a day, we love each others’ company, but I am worried about the wife. But it seems to us that he certainly must be lying to someone — at least to his wife.
It plays on a prospective sexual companion’s sympathies and eliminates any sense of competition. It also portrays the guy as a hapless victim — rather than a calculating perpetrator. Then we need to ask you why you are attracted to a guy who acts like he is a victim? So how do you imagine he will be transformed into an upright, responsible, solid and reliable guy down the road, when it’s your turn to play the “wife” role in his drama? Talk to the countless women who wanted to believe in that fairy tale, too. How do you feel when the next “other woman” enters, stage left?
Do you know the improbability of acheiving a solid relationship with a guy who acts like a victim? What exactly would bring about such a remarkable change in him? Now let’s look at your potential role in such an affair. In starting new relationships, we advise you to choose guys who are totally free and clear.
After recognizing that when it comes to love, many of their female friends prefer hearing advice from men with varying relationship statuses rather than from other women, eight close guy friends from New York City (some married, some single, one divorced) came together to try to make that conversation happen on a much broader scale. Inside they attempt to answer all of the relationship questions their single girlfriends have ever most asked for their opinions on from all of the necessary perspectives—you know, single, married and it's complicated?
So there would seem to be a high probability that deceit is in his behavioral repertoire. Take his story at face value and we notice his proclivity to weasle his way around problems — rather than deal with them head on. So be sure you understand the model you are acting out.
And that’s our best case analysis of the situation. To be blunt, his story really sounds like a well worn story that a married guy uses to get laid outside his marriage. Visualize yourself in that future wife role — down the road with this gent — and then tell me how this same model for behavior works for you from that viewpoint.
In these cases I felt I couldn’t take any photos.” However – as she reveals – one of her suitors almost crossed that line.
“On one date we went to London Zoo and I had such a good time that when we were saying our goodbyes I realised I’d forgotten to turn the recorder on!