my husband and I are seperating after 12 years of marraige he is still living here in the home in the basement and I discovered by accident that he is having sexual relations with someone else he has male enhasement pills and condoms galore I think it has been going on all this time but we have only been seperated since April...I don't understand and I am in so much pain that it's causing me to loose sleep at night . I found out about my EW's "extra-curricular activities" as well.In most divorces, there is a period after the marriage is over in the minds of the parties, but before the marriage is over in the eyes of the law.This is a difficult period for both parties, because they're torn between two competing ideas: fidelity to the now-ended but not legally finished marriage, and equally strong desire to move on and start a new life.After all, there are never any guarantees that a new relationship is going to last, and deciding on the right time to bring a new partner into your children’s lives is a delicate issue and will be a decision that only you can make, when all of you feel ready to take this next step.If your child does react in a negative way towards your new partner, it isn’t necessarily because they don’t like them.That was four years ago, and it took me some time to realize that unless I force myself to get over it, she would use that to keep hurting me repeatedly.
You can also share experiences and advice with other parents on our Forums.I haven't even thought about dating at all so I don't understand how he can? It was only 2 months from our separation, before she had a BF, and 4 months before he was living with her.Even though I had horrible feelings for her for what she did to me, it still tore me apart to see her get over it and have another man move in so quickly.That's probably why so many divorcing people have questions about sex and new relationships.At what point is it appropriate to start seeing someone new? And, if children are a part of the equation, how soon can I introduce the kids to my new "friend?Lawyers do sometimes have to offer advice in these situations to help prevent our clients from making mistakes, in their excitement over having a chance to start fresh, that may have legal consequences for them down the road.